Have been effectively single for two years after being a love addict involved with a sex addict for three years.
Have been approached by someone I have just been talking to as a friend for a while. He has told me of feelings he has for me that I had no idea about, but am petrified of entering any type of new relationship and am terrified that I may be entering into a relationship with someone who is addictive.
I have seen no hint of this, he seems normal, actually listens when I talk, has healthy relationships with friends and family….but I have only once had a relationship with someone who wasn’t an addict of some sort. I promised myself to never become involved intimately again ….but he really does seem a genuinely decent chap.
How can I tell if he’s ok, how can I let my guard down enough to find out if he is genuine or not. Is it worth the risk of getting hurt again…I really don’t think I could cope with anymore emotional turmoil.
How can I be normal I don’t what that looks like, what on earth is a healthy relationship, how can I recognize one.
How can I interact in a positive way when I have never experienced first hand what it is like to be in a relationship that is not co-dependent.